I went through this too. The activity monitor is constantly going trying to update the sidecar file. I think the only solution is to import both the image file and XMP again. I had to delete the files to stop the issue with the activity bar and the ?.
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I was beginning to wonder that nobody knew what I was talking about. Thanks for giving me some feedback.