An ICC aware application applies what's called a Display Using Monitor Compensation architecture using the profile and the document color space to build a preview.
Thank you digital dog,
Now I understand. I tought the colourmanagement system reads the embedded profile, passes the data to the os, the os takes in account the monitor profile and then renders the color in the same way. I was wrong.
So the only solution is to develop my raw for print and make few adjustments softproofing in photoshop and then export to flicrk. More time in front of computer, less time for shooting.
Anyway, Thank you again.