Are you using laser "Disto" for MF on Alpa and LV on DSLR?
I absolutely agree that AF is important on each camera.
In the end I would suggest that most cameras make good enough pictures. Nikon has pulled ahead in resolution with the D800. Regarding DR, I must say that I have seen little issues with DR on my four year old Sony Alpha 900. The Sony Alpha 99 I also have has probably two stops of DR more, but that is nothing I can measure. Anything past 12 stops seem be spoiled by light leaks, reflected light and lens flare. There is a reason DxO uses a special built target to measure DR.
I'll just add that while AF is important for the type of street shooting that I do with CSC and other small cameras, I hardly use it when I'm shooting with a full frame or medium format camera.
But – I have a wide range of different cameras available to me, and so pick the one that's best for the day or the moment. Hardly the norm though, so I do appreciate a camera that has strong AF performance is what a lot of people need.